Should we seduce?
(I wrote this post ten months ago, but for some reason I didn’t publish it, see point about me below. So I’m doing that now, because it’s relevant and important.❤️)
Well, I would say that a lot of people, quite assuredly the majority of the world’s population, would respond with an unequivocal NO to this question. NO because there is nothing scarier than a woman who is connected to her sexuality and her body, and adding seduction to that, are you kidding me? Seeing what is happening in Iran now, where there is such an intense hatred towards women even showing their hair and their faces, I would say we have a long journey ahead of us. But we will get there. In case you were wondering. Because this is the long arc of the feminine bending towards Eros. (Alright, I love to seduce with words too, even though this last sentence probably was a bit too cute). And yes, we might all be blown up to smithereens beforehand, but She is always playing the long game.
And now some of you will interject. “Alright, we believe in the power of women’s sexuality, but not in seduction. That is manipulative, and it’s taking it way too far. That is bringing some of the worst thoughts about women to the foreground.” Starting with the apple, or a symbol from any other religion where a woman - and her sexuality - are usually depicted as the downfall of man and mankind.
Hearing that, my response is this: “Seduction is widely misunderstood. As is the case with anything related to women and sexuality. Because as all agreed to at the end of the first Seduction workshop I held Nov 11, is that real seduction has nothing to do with manipulation, or even with the other. It is an inner game.
Real seduction is you enjoying yourself so immensely, by sharing your own turn-on, so that the other can’t help but want to join in. In this case, the other couldn’t, since it was with clothes on and the one being seduced had to sit on their hands. But just this beautiful idea that there is a safe space where you share your own joy and love for yourself and life, with a glean in your eye, where you are being turned on, is extraordinary. It is the definition of sacredness and holiness. And this goes way beyond a seduction workshop. This is what you bring to your office. Where you sway your hips, immersed in your own pleasure, seducing everyone else in discovering their own turn-on.
Another example. At the beginning of my Tantric journey, I studied with a Tantric Teacher in LA who had closed Shakti-dancing workshops for women, where one of the regulars was a woman in her 60s, with a big body that had difficulties moving without the help of a walker. But when she took off her top, let go of the walker and started to move with Shakti, we were all mesmerized. It was one of the sexiest and holiest experiences I’ve witnessed. She was so connected to herself and what was coming through her, that her body became a full-fledged expression of Eros. She became Shakti. And that is the Seduction I’m talking about. With the Divine Seductress that sashays the Galaxies, bringing life into existence. That is holy work. So yes, seduction where you are having so much fun in your sensual expression (which could be expressed in a pant-suit at a board-meeting) that everyone will connect with their life-force, turn around and say: I’ll have what she’s having.
I also want to add that most of the time, I’m not connected to my inner seductress. I can be very shy, I’m an introvert, when I get stuck in my perfectionism, coupled with the fact that I often don’t feel super-comfortable in my own body. It then feels too vulnerable to be connected to Her. But I know that is the state I’m longing for to become a station instead of just a state at times. It’s my life’s journey and my act of service - through pleasure. To show what is possible, when women connect to this divine sensually embodied expression of life-force. Of She itself. To which I bow.
