How to come alive

PHOTO BY nicole-honeywil, UNSPLAH

PHOTO BY nicole-honeywil, UNSPLAH

In the past ten days, I’ve witnessed over a hundred women becoming turned-on, leaving the conference venue with a smile on their lips, a sway in their hips, looking  blissed out – a transformation that takes place in 60 minutes.  What I love about this “work”, besides the relevant fact that I get turned on myself, is that I get to experience women who are alive, connected to their inner truth AND their sexual energy. Which is magnetic – and yes, sexy. I wish the entire world could experience this.

So how do we come alive? Two components are needed. The first one is life-force, or sexual energy. The more connected we are to it – and turned on by it – the stronger it and we are. The second one is our ability to connect with what is true within us from a place of presence and be able to share these truths with another within a safe container. When the life-force, the feminine, Shakti, is paired with the contemplative tradition that is based on awareness, the  masculine, Shiva, we have a hieros gamos, a sacred marriage. We get turned on AND get to know ourselves and others on a deeply true level. Which is when the heart can open up. We become holy and juicy. I also call it mindfulness with benefits:).

While this might not solve all the world’s problems, I also know that I’ve never witnessed anything more powerful in the many years I’ve worked with self-leadership and spirituality in the US and Sweden. Sometimes I have to pinch my arm when I realize that ‘holy molasses – magic happened this time too’.  It’s deceptively simple, yet it won’t work without a holding environment that encapsulates both. So far my – and increasingly our – focus has been on women, which is a necessary first step. Women need to know and own their sexual embodied power before anything else happens. They are the keepers of the fire. But already now a lovely second step is emerging that connects men to their sexual energy through and with inquiry too. When this sensibility is brought to the work place  – it’s the birth of something entirely new.

Hafiz whispers “stay close to anything that makes you glad you are alive”. David Whyte warns us “anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you” and Mary Oliver nourishes by telling us “you do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.” 

What does your body love and how can you come alive today? 

Love and Truth,